Office love affaires are good or bad?

Most of us work office in more than 40 hours, in a week. Think about when we meet same person in that much of time, we spend hours upon hours engaging and collaborating. That dynamic can soon turn to flirting. On the other hand, if you deduct the sleeping hours and times of other activities, from the remaining day today time periods, you spend no more than, 25 hours with your family or loved one. According to a recent CareerBuilder study, 39% of employees said they have dated a co-worker at least once over the course of their career; 17% reported dating co-workers at least twice.  Almost a third (30%) of those people said they had gone on to marry the person.  So there is a huge potential to have an affair with the co-workers in an office.

But the problem is how ethical is this? Think you, as a loving husband to your wife. But at the office due to certain circumstance you are dating with a lady who is working with you in the office. Do you like, if your wife is doing very same thing, in her office? Like wise...if you are a good wife or a girl friend, would you like, your husband or boy friend have physical bond with other women in his office. Nobody which is not having any mentally illness, likes to let their loved one have physical bond with others. and the very same time you are cheating to your better-half too. So…both ways are painful. if you already, do this in your office, think twice and think whether this is ethical or not. 

And the other hand, these types of relationships are really matters to other co-workers in the office. Suppose, if you are a Boss, and you fell in love with low ranking officer, defiantly you bias to them and do more favors to her or him without proper judgments in his or her works or performances. So this may not any good for other workers as well as your institute. 

Second thing is, if something goes wrong with your informal romance, what is the consequence? An instance, I saw onetime, a decent lady (A wife) came rush in to my office and flapped a lady who is work in my office, in front of her office lover (Very high ranking officer).  So what’s his reputation or dignity? Most of the time either one has to move away from there. And the other thing is while you are having an office romance you may miss your duties too. So why do you put your career in to a jeopardy? Think well and do right.

But don’t forget that, Bill  and Melinda Gates Met at a 1987 Microsoft press event in Manhattan and married in 1994. They married on Jan. 1, 1994, on the Hawaiian island of Lanai. The couple has three children. Barack and Michele Obama Met in 1989, when Michelle was assigned to supervise Barack, a summer associate from Harvard Law School, at a Chicago firm. Married in 1992. They have two children. I guess they did these successful  marriages as were in singles.

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Is virtual love a true love?

Online dating is becoming largely acceptable today as people become more comfortable with using computers and smart phones for communication. E-mail, chatting, and social sites have increased the comfort level of talking with each other online. The relationships, which we make on these media calls, virtual relationships. Further, if we do love someone who never seen in the real world, but seen only in this virtual environment, it’s a virtual love.  In virtual world we love only to a profile, always it’s not may a real person. but still you have real feelings.

In this case we could be any person which we want to be. In here, all the physical facts are not important, such as occupation, education, physical attraction; even your gender or anything. Not only that, we could love several people simultaneously without any problem at all. Here we have lots of freedom to do love. You could carry your love anywhere you want with your mobile device. You may never feel alone. World was never being like this for the relationships. Specially for to do love.

But the question is; is this real love? In one hand, love is spiritual rather than physical; hence one could say, “Yes…This may a real love”. But honestly, without even touching the other person, could we do love or imagine a real love? the fact is, here we do only love, we don’t see the figure of that person or his social status.

On the other hand…in the real world though we see and do love a real person and even we could touch them, still it may not a true love. still we could cheat the love. So what’s the deference? So the thing is, though it’s a physical or virtual, true love is still depending on our mind and the way of thinking and the way of doing it. What do you think? 

Further, When talk about online relationships we can’t forget the online ---. Dr Cath Mercer, from University College London, said: the survey suggested that couples aged 16 to 44 may be using online ---- or online --- with another known person as a substitute for real life ---. It’s because nowadays, "People are worried about their jobs, worried about money. They are not in the mood for --- or love. But still they use internet as their part of the job, People have tablets and smart phones and they are taking them into the bedroom too, using Twitter and Facebook, answering emails". So all those facts lead to on-line relationships and ---, in the modern society.

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Love has a limit and at some point it's a criminal !!!

In a one life time of a person, could love several people. Not even love, if they want could live together until they realize they are ready to go further under one roof. Ultimately they could marry an only one person. Marriage is the finest honor which could give for a love in a civilized society.  And it’s the legal agreement that saying “I love you, till I die no matter what”.

But at some point, after married, they may find better person to love. Then “Boom….” In here, anybody could call “This is wrong” to love another, after married. So that’s how civilized society looks for it.

But is it really wrong? I mean it’s a feeling. That person may have a more strong feeling of love about new lover than the married one. So what’s the matter? As a human, couldn’t stop our prime feeling easily. Because we born to do love. But in here, we try to civilize our feeling of love as could as possible by a law . But in this situation, if they not married already, then they could just walk away from each other and make their new love.  So it’s obvious that, we try to rule the love as much we could. Not like other feelings, love is wonderful and spiritual feeling in our lives, our lives mainly depending on that. but when civilized law comes in to the love it has a limit. sometimes its funny when thinks, "we cannot love as we want, due to the law".   so still "Love" has a limit just like any other things in this world. not only that in this situation doing love is a Criminal. what do you think?

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Commit suicide for love, is the true love?

People get so hurt from love and they even commit suicide on behalf of love. Actually they may do this for broken love. When they die for broken love they used to call it as true love. But is it really true love in there?

No its not. Who is responsible for your pain that you feel? Your pain was created by yourself. What you planted in your mind will come as harvest. If you planted desire in your mind, defiantly someday it will come as an agony in your mind. You can’t blame on anybody. Your own mind has created all your thoughts and expectations. If you have a bad relationship with someone, you would create a mentality that love hurts. Love gives pain. You would start blaming love for the pain you received from your relationship. But love did not do anything. You are the creator of your pain. You are the creator of your own expectations. You used the word “Love” to prove the intensity of your feelings. Love doesn’t hurt anyone. You create your own pain and put the blame on love. Did that person force you to love? You loved for your own requirements, for the requirement in your mind. Keep remember that nobody can ever force someone to love. It’s because, love is an extremely personal feelings that can be created only by yourself in your own mind. And the other hand if someone doesn’t like us, how we force them to love us? It’s completely not ethical. Everybody has rights for decide what they want or don’t, as a human. So…when someone refuses us, if we try to terminate our life, is it a true love? Or at lease is there any love in there? No way… it’s just a foolish thing for commit suicide for breaking up with someone.

However, if you really hurt about your broken love, it’s good to think deeply, what was the root course for your pain. Firstly, your partner may break up with you due to your own mistake or your bad habits. In that case you are the person who led the way your relationship to the breaking point. But it is still not worth to give death penalty for yourself as a punishment, for what you’ve done. Learn from your mistakes and bad habits; try to convince your partner sometime it works. Secondly, if your partner is just leaving you, and if she or he does not love you anymore, or he or she is going after another one, why do you worry about them? Or why you do you worry about you? Please let them go away. They are not worth for you. So why you commit suicide for a person who doesn’t even think about you?

So still do you believe commit suicide for love, is the truelove?

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